Overview

No one prepares you for losing the version of yourself that loss, trauma, and major life changes took. This book helps you discover who you are when life rewrites your identity. The Identity Reset: A Guide to Discovering Yourself After Loss, Change, and Survival is a lifeline for those navigating the difficult in-between—when your past self no longer fits, and the future feels uncertain and unrecognizable. For some, identity loss begins with what was taken. For others, it starts with what was never given: stability, affirmation, belonging, or the safety that trauma disrupted. And when the people, roles, or routines that shaped your life have died, it changes you. Author Ashley Olivia Nelson, a loss and trauma survivor, shows that discovering who you are isn't about “moving on”—it's about moving differently, without shame, pressure, or the need to perform. This book helps you name what's missing, understand how you've changed, and gently mend who you are—without minimizing what happened to you. As an identity and grief specialist, Ashley Olivia Nelson offers: Finding the words for the invisible losses that shaped you Granting yourself permission to grieve and explore who you are now Steps to ease overwhelm and build emotional capacity Choosing relationships that truly accept you You'll walk away with more than validation—you'll leave with direction. Whether you're grieving who you were or who you never got to be, The Identity Reset offers soul-tending reflection and clear, heartfelt insight.

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Author:   Ashley Olivia Nelson
Publisher:   John Wiley & Sons Inc
Imprint:   Jossey-Bass Inc.,U.S.
ISBN:  

9781394337309

ISBN 10:   1394337302
Pages:   288
Publication Date:   03 March 2026
Audience:   General/trade ,  General
Format:   Hardback
Publisher's Status:   Forthcoming
Availability:   Awaiting stock  

Table of Contents

About the Author ix Acknowledgments xi Author's Note xv Introduction xvii Root One: The Shapeshifter 1 Chapter 1: It's Not All About Death 3 Chapter 2: It's Not Safe to Be Me 13 Chapter 3: The Unspoken Agreements We Make with Pain 25 Root Two: The Truth Seeker 45 Chapter 4: The Weight of What's True Now 51 Chapter 5: Tolerating the Distress of Change 65 Chapter 6: Is It Safe to Trust Myself? 77 Root Three: The Releaser 105 Chapter 7: The Dangers We Feel in Releasing 113 Chapter 8: The Practical Side of Releasing 131 Root Four: The Builder 153 Chapter 9: Hope-PTSD 159 Chapter 10: Building Your New Voice 173 Chapter 11: Building Your Community 203 Root Five: The Identity Root 219 Chapter 12: The Practice of You 225 Chapter 13: Stewardship 237 To Become, We Must Reset 253 Index 257

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ASHLEY OLIVIA NELSON is the founder of Learning About Grief, an organization that has served over 30,000 people across more than 50 countries. She offers grief care through an identity-centered lens, helping individuals navigate loss and major life transitions. Since 2013, she has worked across grief and identity care in healthcare, mental health, life insurance, and the funeral care industries. A two-time widow and informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, Ashley brings both professional insight and lived experience to those facing their most vulnerable moments. Her work has been featured in POPSUGAR, Marie Claire, Shape, and Next Avenue.

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