Overview

The Daddies is a love letter to masculinity, a kaleidoscope of its pleasures and horrors. The question Who's your Daddy? started showing up in mainstream cultural references during the 1990s. Those words can be spoken as a question, or a challenge, as a flirtation, a joke, or a threat. It's all about inflection, intention, and who's asking. Apparently, we have so much shared cultural meaning about Daddy the speakers and listeners can simply intuit meaning and proceed to laugh at the joke, or experience the shame, as appropriate. But who is Daddy in American culture? The Daddies aims to find out more than who - but how the process of knowing Daddy can prompt readers to know themselves and their society. This allegory about patriarchy unfolds as a kinky lesbian Daddy/girl love story. Daddy-ness is situated in all people, after all, and we each share responsibility for creating a fairer world. The Daddies can be used as a springboard for discussion in courses in sociology, gender and women's studies, cultural studies, sexuality studies and communication. As a work of fiction, The Daddies can also be enjoyed by general audiences.

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Author:   Kimberly Dark
Publisher:   Brill
Imprint:   Brill
Volume:   28
Weight:   0.572kg
ISBN:  

9789004383555

ISBN 10:   9004383557
Pages:   246
Publication Date:   11 October 2018
Audience:   Professional and scholarly ,  Professional & Vocational
Format:   Hardback
Publisher's Status:   Active
Availability:   In Print  
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Table of Contents

Preface Acknowledgments Introduction: The Daddies Part 1: Origins Chapter 1: Shooting and Spanking and Who's Your Daddy? Shooting Lessons Spanking The Etymology of Colloquy Chapter 2: The First Time Chapter 3: The President and the Metaphors Presidential Daddy Getting What I Want Reviewing the Literature Chapter 4: Looking for Safety at Daddy's House What It Means to Know Everything Formality Mon Coeur est a Papa Chapter 5: Coming into My Room at Night Chapter 6: Daddies, Daughters and Strippers Daddies, Daughters and Strippers When Sex Is Absent Part 2: Actions Chapter 7: The First Time II Chapter 8: University Daddy Chapter 9: Daddy God Daddy God Out of the Woods Chapter 10: Daddy's Territory Two Points on a Map Daddy's Dinner Chapter 11: The Purity Ball Ignoring the News Daddy vs. Girl Purity Showdown Chapter 12: Confusion Hurts Funny Business in the Broadmoor Confusion Hurts Chapter 13: Abroad with Daddy Daddy Gets a Passport Daddy on Holiday Chapter 14: Playboy, Panties, Papi Daddy Likes Playboy Magazine Panties Daddy in the News Chapter 15: Parenting Daddy Parenting Daddy Parenting Daddy Chapter 16: Self-Awareness The List Sexism Chapter 17: Loving Masculinity My Lover's Wounds The Fight Chapter 18: Be Grateful for What You Have Chapter 19: Deliberate Power Women and Wolves Power What Does a Girl Want from Daddy? Chapter 20: Keeping Daddy in Line Mistrusting Daddy Keeping Daddy in Line Chapter 21: Intergenerational Incest Family True Pleasure Chapter 22: Incest Culture Chapter 23: Do We Know Ourselves in Each Other's Eyes? Too Young Dominating Daddy Wrath Chapter 24: Knowledge Is King The Most Powerful Position Possible Daddy Sick Chapter 25: Don't Make Me Leave You Text Free Lover Chapter 26: Possibility Incantation Dollhouse Part 3: Transformation Chapter 27: The Turning The Collapse of the Big Buildings A Note to My Previous Daddy Chapter 28: Daddy's Vessel Chapter 29: The End Daddy's Goodbye The Blade Chapter 30: The Storyteller Storyteller Me One of the Oddities in the Curiosity Cabinet of Kimberly's Psyche Chapter 31: My Father's Time Realizing In the Reckoning Chapter 32: Pleasure Pleasing Daddy Chapter 33: Choosing to Change Why Should Daddy Change? Beautiful Failure Chapter 34: Start with Salt Discussion Guide References About the Author

Reviews

No one anywhere writes all the way through eros, power exchange, and sexuality more fiercely than Kimberly Dark. In The Daddies, Kimberly risks what most writers will not, opening up and asking how masculinity has woven through every realm of our existence, how it has seduced us, betrayed us, protected us, violated us, how it lives in men and women and every other gender and sexuality, how we are facing a reckoning. Kimberly Dark asks us to embrace and reimagine masculinity from the inside out and hold the embrace long enough to change the world. - Lidia Yuknavitch, author of Small Backs of Children and Chronology of Water To say that The Daddies is an intensely textured, kaleidoscopic take on masculinity, Daddy-dom, and the pleasures, perils, and politics of femininity is only partly true. More accurately it is a hypersaturated, unrelenting Willy Wonka boat ride through a pulsating circulatory system of patriarchy, pain, and desire. Kimberly Dark has done something brave and difficult here, and I do not refer merely to the text. - Hanne Blank, author of Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality Dark's work is a multi-layered hybrid of fiction, poetry, non-fiction, autoethnography, biomythography, and collage, which explores the concepts of Daddy through social critique of news and pop culture. This is the very best of Dark - storytelling that highlights gendered interactions and what they tell us about erotic love and masculinity. This book caresses important things in social science that need focus and attention - sexual abuse, gendered expectations, and figuring out identity and desire in a patriarchal world. Dark's panache for nuanced cultural analysis and story-telling makes this book the kind of medicine you can't wait to take; you will want to buy a copy for all the people in your life. - Sandra L. Faulkner, Director Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Bowling Green State University, author of Writing the Personal and Knit Four, Frog One About time someone wrote this book! And what good news that a writer and researcher as skilled as Kimberly Dark has taken it on. - Laurel Richardson, author of Why I Love Ernest Feminist in its worldmaking, intellectual in its erotic poetry, and razor sharp in its depictions of contemporary American gender ideology, Kimberly Dark's The Daddies is a complex and genre-bending contribution to the archive of queer feeling and to theorizing through storytelling. In this autoethnography of Daddy's worlds, the girls who inhabit and work in them are allowed to examine pleasures and pains of power and contradiction. Taking a range of positions, Dark's writing dares to interrogate the psychic structures and deep ambivalences of a queer desire and kinship form in ways that move us beyond simplistic ideas of perversion and subversion. The Daddies is a welcome addition to fem(me)inist sexual theory and a portrait of contemporary patriarchy by and for daddy's girls, by an author who has lived and survived and dared to tell. Plus we learn more about what is at the root of #metoo and its perpetual reproductions from this book than many other contemporary sources. - Ulrika Dahl, Professor of Gender Studies at Uppsala University, co-author of Femmes of Power: Exploding Queer Femininities Daddy is a person with the kind of power that asks to be misused. This is an honest, disturbing, difficult confrontation with the uncontainable. A labor of truth-telling. - Sarah Schulman, author of The Cosmopolitans and Conflict is Not Abuse In this intricate and robust account, Kimberly Dark explores the world of Daddies who repel and compel us. Dark reveals in story after story a masculine culture that garners consent and insists on resistance. For readers who think this is not their world, they may be surprised to find themselves. For readers who already live there, they will see themselves rendered with sensitivity, intelligence, and compassion. For all readers, they will feel they are in the trusted hands of a careful scholar and skilled writer. Pleasure waits for those who will allow Kimberly Dark to take charge from page one to the very last word. - Ronald J. Pelias, University of Louisiana The Daddies is an unforgettable book. Beautifully written, brutally honest, poignant - essential reading for anyone interested in the complexity of gender identity, relationships and sexuality, the forever affect of incest between daddy and daughter, as well as the importance of sharing our stories as part of the journey toward transformation and healing. - Mary E. Weems, author of Blackeyed: Plays and Monologues What a deep and moving work, with plenty of meat for the erotic imagination *and* our inner culture spelunker. Kimberly Dark's strong, nimble writing dances complexly - but so, so readably - through the mythic, the erotic, the sociopolitical, the pop-cultural. It invites us to take an insight-provoking journey through many kinds of gender, many kinds of sex, many kinds of love. Thank you, Kimberly, for refusing to whittle all this down to make it seem simple. - Carol Queen, PhD, author of The Leather Daddy & the Femme and Real Live Nude Girl

No one anywhere writes all the way through eros, power exchange, and sexuality more fiercely than Kimberly Dark. In The Daddies, Kimberly risks what most writers will not, opening up and asking how masculinity has woven through every realm of our existence, how it has seduced us, betrayed us, protected us, violated us, how it lives in men and women and every other gender and sexuality, how we are facing a reckoning. Kimberly Dark asks us to embrace and reimagine masculinity from the inside out and hold the embrace long enough to change the world. - Lidia Yuknavitch, author of Small Backs of Children and Chronology of Water To say that The Daddies is an intensely textured, kaleidoscopic take on masculinity, Daddy-dom, and the pleasures, perils, and politics of femininity is only partly true. More accurately it is a hypersaturated, unrelenting Willy Wonka boat ride through a pulsating circulatory system of patriarchy, pain, and desire. Kimberly Dark has done something brave and difficult here, and I do not refer merely to the text. - Hanne Blank, author of Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality Dark's work is a multi-layered hybrid of fiction, poetry, non-fiction, autoethnography, biomythography, and collage, which explores the concepts of Daddy through social critique of news and pop culture. This is the very best of Dark - storytelling that highlights gendered interactions and what they tell us about erotic love and masculinity. This book caresses important things in social science that need focus and attention - sexual abuse, gendered expectations, and figuring out identity and desire in a patriarchal world. Dark's panache for nuanced cultural analysis and story-telling makes this book the kind of medicine you can't wait to take; you will want to buy a copy for all the people in your life. - Sandra L. Faulkner, Director Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Bowling Green State University, author of Writing the Personal and Knit Four, Frog One About time someone wrote this book! And what good news that a writer and researcher as skilled as Kimberly Dark has taken it on. - Laurel Richardson, author of Why I Love Ernest Feminist in its worldmaking, intellectual in its erotic poetry, and razor sharp in its depictions of contemporary American gender ideology, Kimberly Dark's The Daddies is a complex and genre-bending contribution to the archive of queer feeling and to theorizing through storytelling. In this autoethnography of Daddy's worlds, the girls who inhabit and work in them are allowed to examine pleasures and pains of power and contradiction. Taking a range of positions, Dark's writing dares to interrogate the psychic structures and deep ambivalences of a queer desire and kinship form in ways that move us beyond simplistic ideas of perversion and subversion. The Daddies is a welcome addition to fem(me)inist sexual theory and a portrait of contemporary patriarchy by and for daddy's girls, by an author who has lived and survived and dared to tell. Plus we learn more about what is at the root of #metoo and its perpetual reproductions from this book than many other contemporary sources. - Ulrika Dahl, Professor of Gender Studies at Uppsala University, co-author of Femmes of Power: Exploding Queer Femininities Daddy is a person with the kind of power that asks to be misused. This is an honest, disturbing, difficult confrontation with the uncontainable. A labor of truth-telling. - Sarah Schulman, author of The Cosmopolitans and Conflict is Not Abuse In this intricate and robust account, Kimberly Dark explores the world of Daddies who repel and compel us. Dark reveals in story after story a masculine culture that garners consent and insists on resistance. For readers who think this is not their world, they may be surprised to find themselves. For readers who already live there, they will see themselves rendered with sensitivity, intelligence, and compassion. For all readers, they will feel they are in the trusted hands of a careful scholar and skilled writer. Pleasure waits for those who will allow Kimberly Dark to take charge from page one to the very last word. - Ronald J. Pelias, University of Louisiana The Daddies is an unforgettable book. Beautifully written, brutally honest, poignant - essential reading for anyone interested in the complexity of gender identity, relationships and sexuality, the forever affect of incest between daddy and daughter, as well as the importance of sharing our stories as part of the journey toward transformation and healing. - Mary E. Weems, author of Blackeyed: Plays and Monologues What a deep and moving work, with plenty of meat for the erotic imagination *and* our inner culture spelunker. Kimberly Dark's strong, nimble writing dances complexly - but so, so readably - through the mythic, the erotic, the sociopolitical, the pop-cultural. It invites us to take an insight-provoking journey through many kinds of gender, many kinds of sex, many kinds of love. Thank you, Kimberly, for refusing to whittle all this down to make it seem simple. - Carol Queen, PhD, author of The Leather Daddy & the Femme and Real Live Nude Girl

Author Information

Kimberly Dark is a writer, professor and raconteur working to reveal the hidden architecture of everyday life so that we all discover our influences and reclaim our power as social creators. She's performed stories and poetry at hundreds of venues worldwide and her essays appear in a wide range of scholarly and popular publications. She's the author of Love and Errors (Puna Press, 2018) and co-editor of Ways of Being in Teaching (Sense, 2017). She teaches in Sociology at Cal State, San Marcos and in the Cal State Summer Arts Program.

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