Rethinking Your Teenager: Shifting from Control and Conflict to Structure and Nurture to Raise Accountable Young Adults

Author:   Darby Fox (Child and Adolescent Family Therapist, Child and Adolescent Family Therapist, Private Practice, CT and NY)
Publisher:   Oxford University Press Inc
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9780190054519


Pages:   224
Publication Date:   18 March 2020
Format:   Paperback
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The teenage years. . . parents fear this stage, dreading it even while watching their adorable toddlers explore the world. When it arrives, they try to control their teenager, in turn causing their teenager to push back more intensely. It's a natural instinct on both sides: teenagers are changing in every way while trying to assert their independence, and parents are faced with the challenge of coming up with rules, expectations, and standards for behavior without a genuine understanding of what is happening. But the result of this pattern is a parent-child relationship defined by conflict and reactivity--a breeding ground for stress, anger, and anxiety, all of which reinforcing those same cultural stereotypes and worst fears.But it doesn't have to be this way. In this book, family therapist Darby Fox challenges parents to redefine the goals of adolescence by reorienting their focus from what they want their child to be to on who they want their child to be. Darby not only equips parents with the insight to understand the changes taking place in their child's brain and body and support their adolescent's bid for independence, but also offers an approach that allows parents to engage their adolescent in a relationship instead of struggling in an endless battle for control. The book is organized around a series of persistent myths about adolescence, each of which the author tears down with a combination of cutting edge neuroscience research, developmental psychology, and her own mix of clinical observations and experience raising four children. Darby offers a new model for the parent-child relationship, encouraging parents to let go of the attempt to control their teenager and focus instead on creating mutual respect, providing structure and nurture, and encouraging independence in their developing teenager. She walks through the keys to combining structure and nurture and teaches parents how to connect with their teen while holding them accountable for their behavior. If parents approach teen years with the same thoughtful preparation, sense of awe and wonder, and responsibility that they do the early childhood years, it can be an enjoyable and rewarding developmental stage that deepens, rather than damages, parent-child relationships.

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Author:   Darby Fox (Child and Adolescent Family Therapist, Child and Adolescent Family Therapist, Private Practice, CT and NY)
Publisher:   Oxford University Press Inc
Imprint:   Oxford University Press Inc
Dimensions:   Width: 23.10cm , Height: 1.80cm , Length: 15.20cm
Weight:   0.318kg
ISBN:  

9780190054519


ISBN 10:   0190054514
Pages:   224
Publication Date:   18 March 2020
Audience:   Professional and scholarly ,  Professional & Vocational
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Active
Availability:   To order   Availability explained
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Table of Contents

Foreword, by Dr. Habib Sadeghi, author of The Clarity Cleanse Introduction Chapter One. The First Myth: Teenagers Are Young Adults Who Choose to Act Immature Chapter Two. The Second Myth: Teenagers Behave Badly Because of Raging Hormones and There Is Nothing We Can Do About It Chapter Three. The Third Myth: Adolescents Shut out Adults and Listen Only to Their Peers Chapter Four. The Fourth Myth: Adolescents Don't Need a Lot of Sleep, They're Just Lazy Chapter Five. The Fifth Myth: Adolescents Are Amazing Multitaskers Chapter Six. The Sixth Myth: Alcohol and Marijuana Only Temporarily Impact My Teen Chapter Seven. The Seventh Myth: Teenagers Engage in Risky Behavior to Irritate Their Parents Conclusion. Redefining Achievement and Failure

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Darby Fox is a true champion of her field. Rethinking Your Teenager illuminates the complex lives of teenagers in an in-depth yet accessible way. This book is a gift not only for parents but for anyone seeking to connect with and understand teens. -- Kim Messier, wife of former NHL hockey legend Mark Messier Darby Fox reconciles both the practical and spiritual aspects of what it means to be a parent in the 21st century. This is not a parenting book. This is a manual for a more uplifting future. -- Habib Sadeghi, DO, author of The Clarity Cleanse


Author Information

Darby Fox, MSW, is a child and adolescent family therapist in private practice in Connecticut and New York. With over twenty years of experience, she is an expert on parenting, child psychology, and family topics. Appearing regularly on air and in print media, Fox covers a range of topics, from parenting questions and discipline techniques to current trends in child development. She has also collaborated with Meath Media Group to develop a television series called Fractured Family with Darby Fox.

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