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"Bosnia, once the proud multicultural heartland of Yugoslavia, its villages treasured for Ottoman-era mosques, arched stone bridges, and red-tiled roofs, lay in ruins in 1995, destroyed by three-and-a-half years of murder and rape known to the world as ethnic cleansing. Dr. Demaris Wehr, Quaker, Jungian therapist, peacebuilder, and the author of Jung and Feminism (Beacon Press), came to Bosnia after the war to assist in peacebuilding trainings, and she returned several times to bear witness as survivors of the genocide told her their stories in one-on-one interviews. She asked each of them, ""How did you make it through?"" A pattern became apparent. Amid the chaos, the rupture of all they had once cherished, each of these individuals had found a powerful internal resolve, an overarching personal value such as family, faith, integrity, or duty that held them steady during these turbulent times. No matter the era, humanity seems destined to be blindsided by arisings of hatred and divisiveness, projection and scapegoating. In Making It Through, eight ordinary Bosnians demonstrate ways we can endure and be strengthened and changed by adversity. Despite unimaginable horrors, when we find our centerpost and remain true to it, not only survival, but forgiveness, peace, and the impetus to work for a loving, inclusive future is possible."

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"""In this beautifully written book, Demaris Wehr presents a brief history of the war in Bosnia, illuminating a moment in human history that some people prefer to forget. But as Wehr explains, forgetting does not contribute to forgive ness, which is the only thing that will help humanity create a different, more loving future. Readers will be captivated by the guiding image of the book, the centerpost around which eight stories of survival revolve. Each survivor describes a different centerpost, the one thing that helped them make it through and return home, including family, optimism, faith, duty, and more. The final message of the book is that each of us must find our own centerpost in turbulent, chaotic times in order to stand, with the author, for the possibility of peace. By reading these stories, you too will see 'what the best of humanity can do under the worst of circumstances.'"" - Elizabeth Eowyn Nelson, PhD, author of The Art of Inquiry and Psyche's Knife ""I followed the news about the Bosnian conflict when it was happening, but I couldn't touch the pain. The hope that Demaris Wehr has found through the voices of these narrators is palpable. Her choice of the centerpost image brings a clear focus to that place in the heart where fear can be transformed into courage. And her Jungian insights help, as well. Like this quote, 'There is no lunacy people under the domination of an archetype will not fall prey to.' We in America now live in presence of the Trumpian archetype, where truth is adumbrated. Sometimes even the memory of what truth was is erased. Making It Through is a powerful reminder of how we can meet this kind of adversity with courage and forgiveness."" - Robert A. Jonas, editor of The Essential Henri Nouwen ""The horrors of the Bosnian war have been well-documented, and yet if the world is not to see that region descend into war again, then Milka Marinkovic's observation is crucial: All three nations in Bosnia-Herzegovina-Bosnian Muslims (Bosniaks), Bosnian Serbs, and Bosnian Croats-need to reenvision history. Presently, each nation has a story justifying its actions and its position. We need one story. Relating experiences from all sides of the conflict, Demaris Wehr gives this community, and us, a common narrative. She offers us insight into forgiveness and reconciliation from the frontlines of anguish. The wisdom of the narrators in this volume is wisdom that seems particularly apt and necessary at this moment in history: Forgiveness is about leaving the negative energy behind and having space for positive energy. As Sabiha Husic reminds us, 'It's important to distinguish between forgiving and forgetting.'"" - The Rev. Canon Mpho Tutu van Furth, Executive Director of the Tutu Teach Foundation and coauthor with Archbishop Desmond Tutu of The Book of Forgiving and Made for Goodness ""When archetypal evil takes on a human face, the challenge is no longer about defeating evil, but holding on to what makes us most human. In this eloquently and insightfully written book, Demaris Wehr, weaves a beautiful tapestry of stories that illustrate the profound difficulty and power of holding on to truth, love, and forgiveness in order to triumph over unimaginable cruelty and injustice. This book and its stories of heroic courage, resilience, and determination are more relevant for our world today than ever before."" - Loralee M. Scott, Founder and Director, The Sophia Center for Transformative Learning"

In this beautifully written book, Demaris Wehr presents a brief history of the war in Bosnia, illuminating a moment in human history that some people prefer to forget. But as Wehr explains, forgetting does not contribute to forgive ness, which is the only thing that will help humanity create a different, more loving future. Readers will be captivated by the guiding image of the book, the centerpost around which eight stories of survival revolve. Each survivor describes a different centerpost, the one thing that helped them make it through and return home, including family, optimism, faith, duty, and more. The final message of the book is that each of us must find our own centerpost in turbulent, chaotic times in order to stand, with the author, for the possibility of peace. By reading these stories, you too will see 'what the best of humanity can do under the worst of circumstances.' - Elizabeth Eowyn Nelson, PhD, author of The Art of Inquiry and Psyche's Knife I followed the news about the Bosnian conflict when it was happening, but I couldn't touch the pain. The hope that Demaris Wehr has found through the voices of these narrators is palpable. Her choice of the centerpost image brings a clear focus to that place in the heart where fear can be transformed into courage. And her Jungian insights help, as well. Like this quote, 'There is no lunacy people under the domination of an archetype will not fall prey to.' We in America now live in presence of the Trumpian archetype, where truth is adumbrated. Sometimes even the memory of what truth was is erased. Making It Through is a powerful reminder of how we can meet this kind of adversity with courage and forgiveness. - Robert A. Jonas, editor of The Essential Henri Nouwen The horrors of the Bosnian war have been well-documented, and yet if the world is not to see that region descend into war again, then Milka Marinkovic's observation is crucial: All three nations in Bosnia-Herzegovina-Bosnian Muslims (Bosniaks), Bosnian Serbs, and Bosnian Croats-need to reenvision history. Presently, each nation has a story justifying its actions and its position. We need one story. Relating experiences from all sides of the conflict, Demaris Wehr gives this community, and us, a common narrative. She offers us insight into forgiveness and reconciliation from the frontlines of anguish. The wisdom of the narrators in this volume is wisdom that seems particularly apt and necessary at this moment in history: Forgiveness is about leaving the negative energy behind and having space for positive energy. As Sabiha Husic reminds us, 'It's important to distinguish between forgiving and forgetting.' - The Rev. Canon Mpho Tutu van Furth, Executive Director of the Tutu Teach Foundation and coauthor with Archbishop Desmond Tutu of The Book of Forgiving and Made for Goodness When archetypal evil takes on a human face, the challenge is no longer about defeating evil, but holding on to what makes us most human. In this eloquently and insightfully written book, Demaris Wehr, weaves a beautiful tapestry of stories that illustrate the profound difficulty and power of holding on to truth, love, and forgiveness in order to triumph over unimaginable cruelty and injustice. This book and its stories of heroic courage, resilience, and determination are more relevant for our world today than ever before. - Loralee M. Scott, Founder and Director, The Sophia Center for Transformative Learning

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Demaris S. Wehr PhD has had a lifelong interest in peacebuilding, starting with her Quaker background. She taught religion and psychology at Swarthmore College, Harvard Divinity School, and Episcopal Divinity School. She later became a Jungian psychotherapist, conference speaker, workshop leader, and peacebuilder. Currently on the faculty of The Sophia Center for Transformative Learning, an online graduate school based in Jungian thought, gender studies, and transformative learning, Demaris gives lectures and leads workshops at home and abroad. She lives in Hanover, New Hampshire with her Maine coon cat. For more information, visit www.demariswehr.com.

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