Overview

When you are showered with attention, it can feel incredibly romantic and can blind you to hints of problems ahead. But what happens when attentiveness becomes domination? In some relationships, the desire to control leads to jealousy, gaslighting, threats, micromanaging--even physical violence. If you or someone you care about are trapped in a web of coercive control, this book provides answers, hope, and a way out. Lisa Aronson Fontes draws on both professional expertise and personal experience to help you: *Recognize controlling behaviors of all kinds. *Understand why this destructive pattern occurs. *Determine whether you are in danger and if your partner can change. *Protect yourself and your kids. *Find the support and resources you need. *Take action to improve or end your relationship. *Regain your freedom and independence.

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Author:   Lisa Aronson Fontes (University of Massachusetts Amherst, United States)
Publisher:   Guilford Publications
Imprint:   Guilford Press
Dimensions:   Width: 14.80cm , Height: 1.50cm , Length: 21.00cm
Weight:   0.218kg
ISBN:  

9781462520244

ISBN 10:   1462520243
Pages:   220
Publication Date:   28 April 2015
Audience:   General/trade ,  College/higher education ,  General ,  Tertiary & Higher Education
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Active
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Table of Contents

Contents About This Book I. What Is Coercive Control? 1. Introduction to Coercive Control 2. Controlling Behaviors II. Why Coercive Control Happens 3. Why Some Men Control Their Partners in This Way 4. Why Some Women Get and Stay Involved III. Coercive Control In Specific Populations 5. Different Gender Arrangements and Coercive Control 6. Teenage Victims of Coercive Control IV. Ending Coercive Control 7. Are You Being Victimized? 8. Are You Staying? Expecting Change? 9. Ending the Relationship 10. Feeling Like Yourself Again: Recovering from Coercive Control 11. If Someone You Care About Is Being Victimized by Coercive Control 12. Conclusion Resources

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Dr. Fontes makes the dynamics of coercive control understandable to everyone. In plain language and with clear examples, she describes the tactics of domineering individuals and their effects on victims. Dr. Fontes is particularly thoughtful about including diverse couples and families. After reading this book, no one will be able to ask, 'Why does she stay?' --Juan Carlos AreA!n, Director, National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities This book is gripping and nuanced. It will be extremely helpful to anyone grappling with issues of coercive control. As a therapist with decades of experience, and a person who has been in coercive relationships, I learned a great deal. The stories of women and men from wide-ranging backgrounds pulled me in deeply. Complex, profound ideas are expressed in easy-to-read language. A 'must-have' resource! --Janine Roberts, EdD, past president, American Family Therapy Academy Fontes's writing is clear and vividly illustrated with real-life stories from her decades of work helping abuse victims become survivors. Invisible Chains is a hopeful book that shows a way out of coercive control relationships and illustrates the promise of healing and recovery. --Jeffrey L. Edleson, PhD, Dean and Professor, School of Social Welfare, University of California, Berkeley The first comprehensive guide to overcoming coercive control. Dr. Fontes provides simple tools to assess your own or a loved one's relationship and offers practical steps to getting free, illustrated with real-life stories. The writing is sharp and evocative and the research is impeccable. A pathbreaking work. --Evan Stark, PhD, MSW, Professor Emeritus, Rutgers University School of Public Affairs This book reveals hidden dimensions behind relationships where one partner is controlled by the other. Dr. Fontes explains the dynamics of coercive control and deciphers the pattern so we can all understand it. Read this book and reclaim your life. --Rabbi Efraim Eisen, marriage, family, and child therapist, Amherst, Massachusetts I wish I'd had this book in my youth, when I was the victim of coercion that whittled away at my self-esteem. This book should be in every women's center, police station, and therapist's office. It cuts through the jargon, gets to the heart of the matter, and provides tools of liberation. --Magdalena GA^3mez, author of Shameless Woman

It is expertly inclusive, with sections for LGBT and teenagers and uses empowering jargon-free language to aid victims to regain perspective. These strengths support its aim as a validating, informative self-help guide. The author's broad clinical (and personal) experiences of coercive control within intimate relationships no doubt contribute to the readable style and the inclusion of a chapter on helping others, with pertinent questions for therapists to pose to themselves and patients. - Dr Lorraine Childs,Consultant Clinical Psychologist at St Andrew's Hospital, The Psychologist Dr. Fontes makes the dynamics of coercive control understandable to everyone. In plain language and with clear examples, she describes the tactics of domineering individuals and their effects on victims. Dr. Fontes is particularly thoughtful about including diverse couples and families. After reading this book, no one will be able to ask, 'Why does she stay?' --Juan Carlos Arean, Director, National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities This book is gripping and nuanced. It will be extremely helpful to anyone grappling with issues of coercive control. As a therapist with decades of experience, and a person who has been in coercive relationships, I learned a great deal. The stories of women and men from wide-ranging backgrounds pulled me in deeply. Complex, profound ideas are expressed in easy-to-read language. A 'must-have' resource! --Janine Roberts, EdD, past president, American Family Therapy Academy Fontes's writing is clear and vividly illustrated with real-life stories from her decades of work helping abuse victims become survivors. Invisible Chains is a hopeful book that shows a way out of coercive control relationships and illustrates the promise of healing and recovery. --Jeffrey L. Edleson, PhD, Dean and Professor, School of Social Welfare, University of California, Berkeley The first comprehensive guide to overcoming coercive control. Dr. Fontes provides simple tools to assess your own or a loved one's relationship and offers practical steps to getting free, illustrated with real-life stories. The writing is sharp and evocative and the research is impeccable. A pathbreaking work. --Evan Stark, PhD, MSW, Professor Emeritus, Rutgers University School of Public Affairs This book reveals hidden dimensions behind relationships where one partner is controlled by the other. Dr. Fontes explains the dynamics of coercive control and deciphers the pattern so we can all understand it. Read this book and reclaim your life. --Rabbi Efraim Eisen, marriage, family, and child therapist, Amherst, Massachusetts I wish I'd had this book in my youth, when I was the victim of coercion that whittled away at my self-esteem. This book should be in every women's center, police station, and therapist's office. It cuts through the jargon, gets to the heart of the matter, and provides tools of liberation. --Magdalena Gomez, author of Shameless Woman

I wish I'd had this book in my youth, when I was the victim of coercion that whittled away at my self-esteem. This book should be in every women's center, police station, and therapist's office. It cuts through the jargon, gets to the heart of the matter, and provides tools of liberation. --Magdalena Gomez, author of Shameless Woman The first comprehensive guide to overcoming coercive control. Dr. Fontes provides simple tools to assess your own or a loved one's relationship and offers practical steps to getting free, illustrated with real-life stories. The writing is sharp and evocative and the research is impeccable. A path-breaking work. --Evan Stark, PhD, MSW, Professor Emeritus, Rutgers University School of Public Affairs Dr. Fontes makes the dynamics of coercive control understandable to everyone. In plain language and with clear examples, she describes the tactics of domineering individuals and their effects on victims. Dr. Fontes is particularly thoughtful about including diverse couples and families. After reading this book, no one will be able to ask, 'Why does she stay?' --Juan Carlos AreA!n, Director, National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities This book reveals hidden dimensions behind relationships where one partner is controlled by the other. Dr. Fontes explains the dynamics of coercive control and deciphers the pattern so we can all understand it. Read this book and reclaim your life. --Rabbi Efraim Eisen, marriage, family, and child therapist, Amherst, Massachusetts This book is gripping and nuanced. It will be extremely helpful to anyone grappling with issues of coercive control. As a therapist with decades of experience, and a person who has been in coercive relationships, I learned a great deal. The stories of women and men from wide-ranging backgrounds pulled me in deeply. Complex, profound ideas are expressed in easy-to-read language. A 'must-have' resource! --Janine Roberts, EdD, past president, American Family Therapy Academy Fontes's writing is clear and vividly illustrated with real-life stories from her decades of work helping abuse victims become survivors. Invisible Chains is a hopeful book that shows a way out of coercive control relationships and illustrates the promise of healing and recovery. --Jeffrey L. Edleson, PhD, Dean and Professor, School of Social Welfare, University of California, Berkeley This powerful and informative resource delivers essential information in a nonjudgmental and sensitive manner. People who work in the legal and criminal justice systems need this book to help keep victims and their children safe. The book is easy to read, but in no way simplistic. I will be placing a copy of this book in our office library as a resource for our attorneys and advocates. --Ismael R. Ozanne, Dane County District Attorney, Madison, Wisconsin

Dr. Fontes makes the dynamics of coercive control understandable to everyone. In plain language and with clear examples, she describes the tactics of domineering individuals and their effects on victims. Dr. Fontes is particularly thoughtful about including diverse couples and families. After reading this book, no one will be able to ask, 'Why does she stay?' --Juan Carlos Arean, Director, National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities This book is gripping and nuanced. It will be extremely helpful to anyone grappling with issues of coercive control. As a therapist with decades of experience, and a person who has been in coercive relationships, I learned a great deal. The stories of women and men from wide-ranging backgrounds pulled me in deeply. Complex, profound ideas are expressed in easy-to-read language. A 'must-have' resource! --Janine Roberts, EdD, past president, American Family Therapy Academy

I wish I'd had this book in my youth, when I was the victim of coercion that whittled away at my self-esteem. This book should be in every women's center, police station, and therapist's office. It cuts through the jargon, gets to the heart of the matter, and provides tools of liberation. --Magdalena Gomez, author of Shameless Woman The first comprehensive guide to overcoming coercive control. Dr. Fontes provides simple tools to assess your own or a loved one's relationship and offers practical steps to getting free, illustrated with real-life stories. The writing is sharp and evocative and the research is impeccable. A path-breaking work. --Evan Stark, PhD, MSW, Professor Emeritus, Rutgers University School of Public Affairs Dr. Fontes makes the dynamics of coercive control understandable to everyone. In plain language and with clear examples, she describes the tactics of domineering individuals and their effects on victims. Dr. Fontes is particularly thoughtful about including diverse couples and families. After reading this book, no one will be able to ask, 'Why does she stay?' --Juan Carlos Arean, Director, National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities This book reveals hidden dimensions behind relationships where one partner is controlled by the other. Dr. Fontes explains the dynamics of coercive control and deciphers the pattern so we can all understand it. Read this book and reclaim your life. --Rabbi Efraim Eisen, marriage, family, and child therapist, Amherst, Massachusetts This book is gripping and nuanced. It will be extremely helpful to anyone grappling with issues of coercive control. As a therapist with decades of experience, and a person who has been in coercive relationships, I learned a great deal. The stories of women and men from wide-ranging backgrounds pulled me in deeply. Complex, profound ideas are expressed in easy-to-read language. A 'must-have' resource! --Janine Roberts, EdD, past president, American Family Therapy Academy Fontes's writing is clear and vividly illustrated with real-life stories from her decades of work helping abuse victims become survivors. Invisible Chains is a hopeful book that shows a way out of coercive control relationships and illustrates the promise of healing and recovery. --Jeffrey L. Edleson, PhD, Dean and Professor, School of Social Welfare, University of California, Berkeley This powerful and informative resource delivers essential information in a nonjudgmental and sensitive manner. People who work in the legal and criminal justice systems need this book to help keep victims and their children safe. The book is easy to read, but in no way simplistic. I will be placing a copy of this book in our office library as a resource for our attorneys and advocates. --Ismael R. Ozanne, Dane County District Attorney, Madison, Wisconsin Excellent for people who are under someone's coercive control or know someone who might be. The book is also recommended for those who have the opportunity to help victims in their work such as therapists, lawyers, and police officers. (starred review). --Library Journal, 4/1/2015 This comprehensive, exceptionally helpful guide to coercive relationships will enable readers to identify abusive patterns, determine safe responses, and plan exit strategies. Fontes (Interviewing Clients across Cultures) has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is an expert in family and domestic violence. Her expertise comes out in every page as she outlines problem behaviors and presents multiple options (leaving, defining new boundaries, determining how to safely stay in a relationship) in a non-judgmental but pragmatic fashion....Fontes has a firm command of both the explanations and descriptions of coercive behavior, as well as how people in such relationships can extricate themselves. An eminently readable book....Readers who want to check their own relationships or keep an eye out for their loved ones will find this to be a fascinating, disturbing read. --Publisher's Weekly, 3/23/2015

Author Information

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, has a doctorate in counseling psychology and has worked in the areas of child abuse, violence against women, challenging family issues, and cross-cultural research for over 25 years. A professor, researcher, and popular conference speaker, she teaches at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Dr. Fontes is the author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship as well as the professional resources Child Abuse and Culture and Interviewing across Cultures.

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