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Adoption is often evaluated by what can be seen: a completed placement, a stable home, a child who stays. What happens when none of those measures tell the full story? Held, Not Safe is a deeply human, rigorously argued examination of adoption's quiet failures - the harms that do not look like abuse, neglect, or disruption, yet shape adoptees for a lifetime. Drawing on lived experience, clinical insight, and systemic analysis, this book reveals how emotional safety is routinely overlooked by institutions tasked with protecting children. Rather than focusing on extreme cases, this book centers those adoptees who were never flagged as ""at risk"" - the children who stayed, adapted, and survived in families that met every formal requirement while failing at the one thing that mattered most. Across seven expansive chapters, the book traces: How early separation imprints on the body and identity Why current screening processes fail to detect relational and personality-based risks How unsuitable placements are approved despite warning signs What life looks like inside ""successful"" adoptions marked by emotional neglect and role reversal How children become caretakers in families that refuse accountability Why institutional silence perpetuates harm And how adoption systems can change - concretely, measurably, and without defensiveness At its core, Held, Not Safe is not an argument against adoption. It is an argument against complacency. The book offers a clear, practical framework for reform, showing how institutions such as CARA and SARA, adoption agencies, and policymakers can measure emotional safety, intervene early, support families responsibly, and remain accountable across the adoptee's lifespan - without punishment, spectacle, or blame. This is a book for: Adoptees seeking language for experiences that were never acknowledged Professionals and counselors working with adopted individuals and families Policymakers and agencies committed to ethical, evidence-informed adoption And readers willing to confront the difference between permanence on paper and safety in practice Unflinching yet compassionate, Held, Not Safe insists on a simple truth: a child can be housed, loved, and legally placed - and still not be safe. What we measure determines what we protect.

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