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Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today-and we create a better world for all of us in the future. ""I'm in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids-and ourselves."" -Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author ofRaising Good Humans Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today-and we create a better world for all of us in the future. When we see our children stalling, resisting, having tantrums, using mean words, and hitting, we want to just make it stop. But conventional discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and ""consequences"" teach children that it's OK for more powerful people to control others-a lesson they take out into the world. This is how we learned White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism from our parents-and we will replicate this with our children unless we make a different choice. Research-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children. This new approach helps us to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children's needs, and ours too-perhaps for the first time in our lives. It involves empathetic listening, understanding feelings and underlying needs, and problem-solving with our children to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone. Family life becomes radically easier in the short term because behavior problems tend to melt away. In the long term, we'll raise children who confidently advocate for themselvesand treat others with profound respect. Includes sample scripts, flowcharts, and resources to help parents learn and implement this new approach. -""The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies.""-Publisher's Weekly

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Lumanlan challenges us to face our privilege and adopt a powerful new way of parenting that's both effective and empathetic. Highly recommended for anyone involved in raising the next generation. --Carla Naumburg, PhD, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids A must for all teachers, parents, and citizens interested in a better world. --John H. Bickford III, Ph.D., Professor of Social Studies/History Education, Eastern Illinois University

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JEN LUMANLAN MS, MEd, is the host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which uses scientific research to understand parenting and child development. After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master's in psychology/child development and another in education, and is a Co-Active coach. Jen connects ideas across all of these experiences to help parents transform their relationships with their children.

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