Overview

The main thesis of this book is that words have power. They have power to nourish – to add substantially to the way people feel about themselves. They also have power to hurt – to diminish another’s feelings about self. The words we use to each other can bring us closer together or drive us further apart. The materials in the book provide readers with opportunities to examine and reflect on the relationship between human interactions and the development of positive human relationships, specifically how conversations work to enable positive relationships or diminish them. These include being able to “tune in” to what the other person is saying, freeing oneself from the need to judge, being respectful, and having a clear and non-defensive idea of what is coming out of one’s mouth. The materials in the book also provide a self-instructional program to develop one’s skills in using human interactions that build more positive relationships.

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Author:   Selma Wassermann
Publisher:   Rowman & Littlefield
Imprint:   Rowman & Littlefield
Dimensions:   Width: 14.80cm , Height: 1.40cm , Length: 21.70cm
Weight:   0.308kg
ISBN:  

9781475867534

ISBN 10:   1475867530
Pages:   112
Publication Date:   27 July 2022
Audience:   Professional and scholarly ,  Professional & Vocational
Format:   Hardback
Publisher's Status:   Active
Availability:   Manufactured on demand  
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Table of Contents

Preface Acknowledgements Introduction What’s the good of it? (It’s not about the cheese) How the book is organized Part One: The Essential Components of Effective Human Interactions Chapter 1: Listening: “tuning in” Key conditions in active listening Developing active listening skills Chapter 2: Responding The overarching condition of respect Selecting appropriate responses Paraphrasing End notes One final word Chapter 3: The art of the question Questions that should be avoided More productive questions Turning questions into statements of inquiry The well-orchestrated discussion Conclusion Chapter 4: Once more with feeling Conclusion Chapter 5: Caveats: When the divide is too great Part Two Chapter 6: Introduction to the skill development materials Chapter 7: Introduction to facilitative interactions: Task 1 Studying the conversations Thinking about conversations #1 Thinking about conversation #2 Thinking about conversation #3 Thinking about conversation #4 Reflecting on interpersonal facilitative responding Conclusion Figure 1: Analyzing Responses in Human Discourse Chapter 8: Practice in choosing appropriate responses Practice task Self-evaluation of your responses Conclusion Chapter 9: Practice in attending and responding with respect (encore) Task Self-evaluation of your responses Conclusion Chapter 10: Creating your own scenario Self-evaluation of your conversation Conclusion Chapter 11: One-on one practice in attending and responding with respect (A) Pre-conditions Task Conclusion Chapter 12: One-on-one practice in attending and responding with respect (B) Points to remember in interpersonal discussions Pre-conditions Task Conclusion Chapter 13: Practice in attending and responding (Encore) Conclusion Chapter 14: Using effective interpersonal skills in real situations Chapter 15: Last Words Just one more thing Bibliography

Reviews

Almost fifty years ago I was given the opportunity to learn the skills presented in this book in a course masterfully designed and taught by Dr. Selma Wassermann. It was the last semester of my teacher education program. I remember working very hard to absorb and integrate the skills taught in that course. The skills I learned by following almost exactly the steps described in this book, have stood me in good stead throughout my career and my life. This book was a reminder to me of the importance of attending and responding in thoughtful, caring, and respectful ways. It was like receiving a gift for second time, all the more precious for having had the experience of trying to live what was once learned. If you believe that listening and responding respectfully are powerful tools to build and maintain positive relationships, and if you do the work prescribed in this book, you will NEVER be sorry. --Teresa Saunders, retired teacher, teacher-educator, school administrator Conversations' is an invitation to re-examine how we speak and listen to one another, especially in difficult times. Working through the exercises was eye-opening! They helped me to reflect on my own communication skills, and gave me concrete steps for improving. Selma's wisdom shared here will undoubtedly impact my interactions with students, colleagues, and my own family. --Lin Snow, parent, early childhood education assistant, ECE student I wish that my parents, my teachers, supervisors, and even many of my colleagues had read this book before I entered kindergarten and the work place. I also wish that I had read it and learned its lessons before I became a parent, before I entered high school and university. I would have been a better parent, student, supervisor, and colleague. --Stanley Feder, PhD, political scientist. McLean Virginia Renowned author Selma Wassermann is once again at the forefront! Conversations brings to professionals and new learners in education, counselling, and associated human services domains, a most contemporary roadmap for consolidating and advancing those effective interpersonal interactions found at the heart of all conversations. Based on the most powerful of human relations research and practice, it will not only enrich the work of the most seasoned counsellors and teachers, as well as parents and other adults, but also inspire and guide all who embrace the mission of helping others. --Harold McAllister, counsellor, teacher, parent The four pillars of the language arts are reading, writing, speaking, and listening. While the last two are most frequently employed, they are the most neglected in the curriculum of our schools where the emphasis is on reading and writing. With her new book, Conversations, Selma Wassermann brings the spotlight back on speaking and listening with a program to raise awareness of the ways we talk to each other with activities for their improvement. Words have the power to hurt or help. Wassermann shows us how to make them help. --William C. Cliett Jr., former superintendent of schools, Gainesville, Florida

Almost fifty years ago I was given the opportunity to learn the skills presented in this book in a course masterfully designed and taught by Dr. Selma Wassermann. It was the last semester of my teacher education program. I remember working very hard to absorb and integrate the skills taught in that course. The skills I learned by following almost exactly the steps described in this book, have stood me in good stead throughout my career and my life. This book was a reminder to me of the importance of attending and responding in thoughtful, caring, and respectful ways. It was like receiving a gift for second time, all the more precious for having had the experience of trying to live what was once learned. If you believe that listening and responding respectfully are powerful tools to build and maintain positive relationships, and if you do the work prescribed in this book, you will NEVER be sorry. Conversations' is an invitation to re-examine how we speak and listen to one another, especially in difficult times. Working through the exercises was eye-opening! They helped me to reflect on my own communication skills, and gave me concrete steps for improving. Selma's wisdom shared here will undoubtedly impact my interactions with students, colleagues, and my own family. I wish that my parents, my teachers, supervisors, and even many of my colleagues had read this book before I entered kindergarten and the work place. I also wish that I had read it and learned its lessons before I became a parent, before I entered high school and university. I would have been a better parent, student, supervisor, and colleague. Renowned author Selma Wassermann is once again at the forefront! Conversations brings to professionals and new learners in education, counselling, and associated human services domains, a most contemporary roadmap for consolidating and advancing those effective interpersonal interactions found at the heart of all conversations. Based on the most powerful of human relations research and practice, it will not only enrich the work of the most seasoned counsellors and teachers, as well as parents and other adults, but also inspire and guide all who embrace the mission of helping others. The four pillars of the language arts are reading, writing, speaking, and listening. While the last two are most frequently employed, they are the most neglected in the curriculum of our schools where the emphasis is on reading and writing. With her new book, Conversations, Selma Wassermann brings the spotlight back on speaking and listening with a program to raise awareness of the ways we talk to each other with activities for their improvement. Words have the power to hurt or help. Wassermann shows us how to make them help.

Almost fifty years ago I was given the opportunity to learn the skills presented in this book in a course masterfully designed and taught by Dr. Selma Wassermann. It was the last semester of my teacher education program. I remember working very hard to absorb and integrate the skills taught in that course. The skills I learned by following almost exactly the steps described in this book, have stood me in good stead throughout my career and my life. This book was a reminder to me of the importance of attending and responding in thoughtful, caring, and respectful ways. It was like receiving a gift for second time, all the more precious for having had the experience of trying to live what was once learned. If you believe that listening and responding respectfully are powerful tools to build and maintain positive relationships, and if you do the work prescribed in this book, you will NEVER be sorry.--Teresa Saunders, retired teacher, teacher-educator, school administrator Conversations' is an invitation to re-examine how we speak and listen to one another, especially in difficult times. Working through the exercises was eye-opening! They helped me to reflect on my own communication skills, and gave me concrete steps for improving. Selma's wisdom shared here will undoubtedly impact my interactions with students, colleagues, and my own family.--Lin Snow, parent, early childhood education assistant, ECE student I wish that my parents, my teachers, supervisors, and even many of my colleagues had read this book before I entered kindergarten and the work place. I also wish that I had read it and learned its lessons before I became a parent, before I entered high school and university. I would have been a better parent, student, supervisor, and colleague.--Stanley Feder, PhD, parent, grandfather Renowned author Selma Wassermann is once again at the forefront! Conversations brings to professionals and new learners in education, counselling, and associated human services domains, a most contemporary roadmap for consolidating and advancing those effective interpersonal interactions found at the heart of all conversations. Based on the most powerful of human relations research and practice, it will not only enrich the work of the most seasoned counsellors and teachers, as well as parents and other adults, but also inspire and guide all who embrace the mission of helping others.--Harold McAllister, counsellor, teacher, parent The four pillars of the language arts are reading, writing, speaking, and listening. While the last two are most frequently employed, they are the most neglected in the curriculum of our schools where the emphasis is on reading and writing. With her new book, Conversations, Selma Wassermann brings the spotlight back on speaking and listening with a program to raise awareness of the ways we talk to each other with activities for their improvement. Words have the power to hurt or help. Wassermann shows us how to make them help.--William C. Cliett Jr., former superintendent of schools, Gainesville, Florida

Author Information

Selma Wassermann is a Professor Emerita in the Faculty of Education at Simon Fraser University, and a recipient of the University Award in Teaching Excellence. Her teaching expertise includes the development of teaching for thinking and interpersonal skills.

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